Back in America!!

we are finally in America and I spent $10 on airport food (totally worth it). The past three days have been exhausting but have been fun filled. I still have the urge to speak Spanish to all the people I see in the airport because I do not think it has yet dawned on me that we are in America. This trip has brought so many learning opportunities to me! The way that we all came into this trip and the way that we are all leaving is absolutely amazing... We are all changed people and from here on none of us will see the world the same. Gods hands have surely touched each and every one of us, all in different ways. I hope that all of us can try to keep our life humble and simple like the Peruvians as we return to our homes. I'm so glad that I was able to share the love of Jesus Christ in hopes that he makes others as happy as he has made me. God bless! 

Mary shaw 

We're back!

We have arrived back in America but I'm still speaking spanish. The Peruvians taught me a lot especially bargaining and better español. I kept 44.20 soles because when I go back I plan to be more prepared. But all in all it was an amazing experience and I've learned to appreciate everything I have and I can survive without technology and thank you for all the support and prayers. #PeruLove #Gonnamissit

-DJ Alston 

After an awesome experience in Cusco and Lima we are now back in the States. This past week has been one of the most powerful weeks I have ever experienced. Throughout the week I was continually amazed by the fact that there were people that live over 3,000 miles away that worship the same God as we do at TBC. In addition to this, the power of God was demonstrated by the fact that all of us students were able to build relationships with the kids of Cusco despite the language barrier. After all of this though I will admit, I have never been more excited to be able to drink a cup of water with ICE. Thank you for your prayers throughout this past week!

-Austin Cobb

The Long Journey Home Begins

Hi everyone! This is Emma Keeter again. We have had an amazing day touring and exploring Lima, Peru. After an early wake up call and departure time of 4:30 a.m., we boarded a flight from our week long stay in Cusco to Lima. It was extremely tough waking up that early after only a few hours of sleep from the long day before at Machu Picchu, but it was worth it! The flight from Cusco to Lima is breath taking. The long vast chain of mountains stretched for many many miles. Some are even snow capped! And towards the end of the one hour flight, you end up looking and flying over the Pacific Ocean (which I have never seen in person before yesterday morning). Once everybody had landed and the buses were loaded, we toured the beautiful coast of Lima. The bus drove down the long coast filled with large beaches, devoted surfers in the freezing water, and recreational activities such as tennis courts and soccer fields on back end of the beach. We then made it to the top of the hilly coast where there were multiple sights to see including: a gigantic cross from the 80's made out of power lines that lights up at night (Peruvians faced terrorism during this time), a statue of Jesus facing Lima, and a beautiful outdoor chapel with Mary looking over Lima as well. A morning devotion was held at the chapel to help spark the idea of reflection for all the amazing and wonderful experiences. We then traveled back down the coast to a local mall to eat lunch and explore for a few hours. The Inca Market in Lima was next. It's set up a lot like an outdoor farmers market with different vendors selling everything from alpaca blankets to bracelets to sweaters and trinkets. Bartering is super fun through the difficulties of a huge language barrier and exchanging dollars for soles (name of Peruvian currency). We then traveled to dinner where we ate rotisserie chicken and French fries. After that, the long journey home began. Our flight did not leave till about 1:15 in the morning. We have successfully made it home to the United States! Yay! The six hour sleep was super nice after getting very little sleep a few consecutive nights before. I would like to thank all the adult chaperones, Lydia, Christian, and everyone who has been praying for us all along the way. The continual thoughts and prayers from beginning to end mean so much. Words cannot describe how greatful I am for having the opprotunity to have gone through this life changing trip. Hope to see everyone soon! 

Sarah and Ashley Rock Peru

Sarah:

Knowing that door to door evangelism was a ministry option before the trip, I was hoping I would do it on the second or third day so I could ease into everything.  Talking to strangers about my faith makes me slightly uncomfortable and talking to strangers in a different language just makes the situation even harder.  The first two houses we went to were kind of tough because we were still figuring out how to talk about God in two to five minutes. Though it was difficult, my group quickly got the hang of it and talking became a lot easier.  Towards the end of our morning, we realized we didn't have enough time to go to more houses so we stood on the street and talked to people as they passed. The last person we talked to was a girl named Flora María. We told her about the local church in Tombomachay and asked her if we could pray for her. She said yes but asked us how to pray. That was definitely an eye opening experience because I've known how to pray my whole life and I hadn't really thought of someone not knowing how to pray.  I definitely felt The Lord with us and it was amazing teaching people about God.

Ashley:

Door to door evangelism is awkward. For any of you parents, grandparents, or committed friends out there who don't know me, I am awkward even without having to talk to strangers for an hour about their faith. Overall, the experience improved as I began to learn more about the Peruvians lives. People are incredible and have incredible experiences just waiting to be discovered. We prayed for each person's problems and put our faith in our God to take care of their needs. Although evangelizing is awkward Peru is not! It is amazing and being taken from my comfort zone in such an overwhelmingly beautiful country is worth a million hours on planes, trains, and any automobiles needed to get there.

Witnessing in the marketplace

Our students have been involved in many opportunities here in Peru. As a chaperone, it has been a blessing to see our students engage in sharing the gospel in the marketplace. They sang, gave testimonies, did skits, and prayed with individuals who had specific needs. The local church people accompanied us and had this chance to invite people to join with the local Christian community.  Today a lady whom we prayed for gave us a fresh papaya as a thank you gift, and the kids were delighted. We are seeing God at work and at the same time we are growing in our own spiritual lives. Praise God from whom all blessings flow.  I thank Trinity for the chance to participate.. Boyd Dimmock

Day 3: Peru

Hola everyone! This is Emma Keeter and I am a rising senior within the youth group. Today has been slightly different because it is Sunday and we helped lead local church services within Cusco. I went to the the church of Ibroamericana. It is a very small church with just enough space to fit 3 work groups and the members of the church. The service started with music in Spanish lead by one of our translators named Luis. Even though it was all in Spanish, we all sang along and tried our best with the pronunciation. As the service continued, fellow youth group members stepped up to share their testimonies, sing music in both Spanish and English, preform a skit, and preach the word of God. It was extremely moving for the locals to see us involved with sharing our faith by action and words. At the end of the service the members of the church gave us hugs and kisses as a farewell and a way of gratification.

 Following the church service, we ate lunch and planned out specifics for Vacation Bible School. We then drove to the VBS site of Tombomachay and played with the kids for about an hour. The kids love to play soccer, throw frisbees, blow bubbles, jump rope, and love to be tickled. After about an hour of play time, the translators call the kids to sit down and VBS begins. The first activity we begin with at VBS is the music. The Spanish version of Jesus is My Superhero is a favorite among the kids! After a few songs and cool dance moves, there is a skit preformed to show and tell the bible story for the day. The bible story for today taught the kids about Queen Ester. Next a memory verse is held up on individual poster boards and the kids read it aloud all together. To help with memorization, a few words are taken out and finally all the words go away and they attempt to recite it. The kids get real excited after all the words are gone and a few individuals are chosen to see if they can recite it all from memory to receive prizes such as a sandwich or juice box. The final activity for the day includes the craft. Today the kids made a clay necklace representing the royalty and bravery of Queen Ester. Once everyone was done making their necklaces, the kids exit VBS by making a train and running under adult leaders and youth forming a tunnel. 

I saw God today throughout my day but specifically in the church service this morning. Watching my friends give their testimony, sing a song, or even perform a skit shows me and others that God is  working in them and has a true purpose for them. And to get the amazing feedback from the church members makes it exciting and thrilling. Hope you enjoy this update!

Days 1-2: Peru

Hey everyone, I'm Rachel Langley, a senior on the TBC high school ministry team in Peru. Wow! We've been in Peru for 48 hours, and we finally got wifi to work in the hostel. After about 24 hours of travel (aka 24 hours of no sleep), we had a quick nap before we headed out to our first day of VBS. We basically went around to the houses around the parks inviting kids to play with us. Some of the translators even made us invite the kids ourselves...in Spanish! As we played, more and more kids showed up and joined right in. 

Later, we went back to the hostel and had dinner--a fabulous dinner I may add. We have some locals cooking for us and they feed us well! It's delicious and filling and I'm trying to find a way to sneak some if the bread and jam home! We also have tea available at each meal, including coca tea to help with altitude sickness. When we first arrived, some people were feeling the effects of lack of sleep and change in altitude, but as of today (Saturday) everyone was out working, doing well, and sharing God's love with the people of Cusco!

Today, we played with kids, fed elderly people, played bingo, dug trenches for a wall, held multiple VBS's, and went door to door sharing the gospel. As we shared during devotion tonight, people shared some things they had struggled with. The language barrier was definitely a common issue, but everyone seemed to be able to communicate with the people. As one person said, even with the language barrier, the people knew we loved them and we knew they loved us. Others struggled with being in situations that made them uncomfortable or that they weren't prepared for. Door to door evangelism was definitely one ministry many people were anxious about. As we went out, Brooks Warren reminded us to pray that God would give us the words to say, and I think that really helped those groups. One person shared that their group didn't really know what they were doing, but by the end of the day they had a major God moment. They had been sharing with one girl and one of them randomly thought to ask the girl if she had any questions. She asked them how to pray. She knew that she needed to, and she wanted to, but she didn't know how. They really felt the presence of God in that moment and knew they were there for a reason. Any anxieties they had were relinquished. 

For me, the most awesome experience was speaking with a woman named Nilda, who works with a project called Chulla Sonqo which means one heart in Quechua. It is a program where they help kids who live outside Cusco with their studies so they can attend high school in the city. She was at the hostel, selling some crafts the kids had made, and someone needed a translator. I was the most qualified in the immediate area...even with my mediocre Spanish abilities. I translated for her and then we got into a conversation. Without even knowing each other's names, we connected on an almost spiritual level I've experienced only very rarely. And I think that encounter really sums up many encounters people on our team have had--whether it be the nonverbal communication of love with a child or someone being in the right place at the right time. God is definitely working here, and I think we realize that a little more each day as we open our hearts to the Holy Spirit's moving.

Preparation and Prayer

As is the case with any trip, there is much preparation to be done as your students make themselves ready for the upcoming Peru Mission Trip. Packing lists will be checked countless times to ensure that no essential item is left behind and many will spend time reviewing the schedule in order to know where they will be at all times.

However, in the midst of all the stress that comes with preparation, we encourage parents and students to put their packing on pause for a moment and enter into a time of prayer:

- Pray for the students: That the Lord would use them during this time to serve and that the experiences they encounter would allow them to grow closer to God.

- Pray for the leaders: That they would watch over the students and guide them in the ways in which the Lord has directed.

- Pray for the people we will encounter abroad: That they would be touched by our students and leaders and see the love of Christ in us.

We encourage you to pray as you prepare and to continue to pray while the students on their journey. We pray that our Heavenly Father would watch over this group and that the Holy Spirit would guide us as we go out and serve.

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On Faith + Doubt

A couple of weeks ago, our high school students, during Northbound, were asked to think of questions they were always afraid to ask in church. Many of our students wonder and often hesitant to ask difficult questions because they are not sure how adults would respond. They do not want to be judged so they keep the questions to themselves. What we desire for our students is that our homes and our church are safe places where they can ask questions.

Andrew Zirschky at the Center for Youth Ministry Training says, “If we are going to respond adequately to the doubting experiences of youth, we need to ensure that young people … have patient, understanding companions who can guide and care for them through the twists and turns of the journey of doubt.” Our parents and adult leaders at church are the companions Zirschky describes.

As parents and adult leaders, we often do not have answers to the difficult questions our teenagers sometimes ask. Brad Griffin of Fuller Youth Institute suggests we have four words in our back pocket for those moments: “I don’t know, but…” It’s ok to admit that we do not know but together, we can seek out the answers. To help develop the spiritual growth in our students, we have to be open for doubt-filled questions and respond with patient and loving responses. May the Lord place us in these moments as we walk with our teenagers through their spiritual journey.

- Andy 

A Good Friday Meditation

I'm just going to leave this here for you.  

Listen. 

Pray. 

Give thanks.

Humble and human, willing to bend You are
Fashioned of flesh and the fire of life, You are
Not too proud to wear our skin
to know this weary world we’re in
Humble, humble Jesus

Humble in sorrow, You gladly carried Your cross

Never refusing Your life to the weakest of us
Not too proud to bear our sin
to feel this brokenness we’re in
Humble, humble Jesus

We bow our knees

We must decrease
You must increase
We lift You high

Humble in greatness, born in the likeness of man

Name above all names, holding our world in Your hands
Not too proud to dwell with us, to live in us, to die for us
Humble, humble Jesus

We bow our knees

We must decrease

You must increase
We lift You high

We lift You high
We lift You high 

Humble

You are humble 

Make me humble like you 

We lift You high


"Humble" by Audrey Assad

Tough Issues High School Curriculum: Bullying

Last Wednesday, we ended our Tough Issues curriculum with a focus on bullying.  In some ways this was an easy topic to tackle because we all know that bullying is wrong, but in some ways it was difficult because... we all know that bullying is wrong.  Schools and independent non-profits have been raising bullying awareness for years now, and rightly so.  So many students have be hurt and have even lost their lives as a result of bullying.  There are many ideas to help stop and prevent bullying.  But, many of these ideas skip a very important step - they do not take much time to focus on the why of bullying.  Why do bullies bully, and why should we not involve ourselves as the bully or even the bystander?  

In Northbound on Wednesday night, our leadership team helped shine a light on the bullying that we all have taken part in in big and small ways.  We were reminded of the hurt caused by sub-tweeting (a 140 character or less message written on the social networking site Twitter visible to all who follow (or subscribe to) the author's account that is clearly in reference to someone without directly identifying the person(s)).  Attention was called to the hurtful nature of gossiping, belittling another's abilities within particular interest groups (art, drama, band, sports, etc), and ostracizing persons from peer groups or social activities.  There are so many ways that we are bullied and take part in bullying.  

When we begin to see the world as God sees it and understand that each person is a child of God created in His image, we are able to understand fully the harm of bullying.  No matter the reason for bullying, none is so great that it excuses the intentional harm caused to one of God's children.  

As you talk with your student about bullying, think about the ways that you might perpetrate "micro-aggressions" on others.  What example are you giving your children?  Do you typically talk about and treat others (no matter how frustrating they are or how right you feel) as children of God who bear His divine image?

Bullying stops when we each individually decide to stop bullying others.  

Tough Issues High School Curriculum: Body Image

Genesis 1:27 says, “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.”

We are bombarded in our culture with the message of health and fitness. It is a $27 billion industry and consistently growing. Yet, U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention reports one in every three American adults is obese and two of three are overweight.

Where is the disconnect?

Being healthy by eating properly and exercising regularly is important. When we are not healthy, we cannot live up to the full potential of God’s purpose for our lives. However, many of us have a skewed view of health and beauty. Both guys and girls have a poor understanding of body image. 

The media plays a large role and it is an easy target to place much of the blame. It pushes the image of washboard abs, broad shoulders, defined chest and sculpted arms as the perfect guy. Media tries to sell us there is a perfect look for the girls with certain hair, lean bodies with perfect thighs, backside and chest. It uses tricks like plastic surgery, light tricks and Photoshop to remind us how perfect models and celebrities. No doubt media deserves a lot of the blame but there is plenty of blame to go around.

Each of us have bought into the “lie” and added our personal vanity into the problem of self-image. We want to look better than others and we’ve somehow made it into a competition. We think, “If I work out just a little more, I will be thinner than her and so-and-so will notice me.” “If I bulk up a little more, she will see that I am better looking than so-and-so.”

So why do we do this to ourselves? We somehow believe we do not measure up…measure up to God and with others. Yet, when he created Adam and Eve, God noticed that his creation was VERY GOOD. God created us with a certain body type. Within this body type, we should moderate food and exercise to stay healthy. We should constantly remind ourselves God loves us without any conditions. When we do this, we live into who God created us to be a little more at a time. This is a life-long journey.

This past Wednesday night, we talked through this message with our high school students, and we heard from one of our young adults and former students, Jessica Phillips.  Jessica shared her journey with our students of really discovering her identity on the other side of struggling with our culture's version of reality.  

Body image does not always drive us to unhealthy diets or obsessive workouts, sometimes it means that we have low self-esteem and poor relationships or that we compensate by being the life of wild parties.  The way we see ourselves directly affects the way we live our lives.  A healthy and whole body image is one that begins with the understanding that each individual is a very good creation created bearing the Image of God, and how we treat God's creation (ourselves) matters.    

Tough Issues High School Curriculum: Depression

This past Wednesday, we tackled the second difficult topic of our Tough Issues series with our high school students. Dr. Amanda Price, a licensed psychologist, came and shared what depression is, what it isn’t and how we can help one another. Amanda emphasized that it was natural and appropriate to feel depressed at times when life presents difficult moments. However, when these feelings linger for weeks and months, it begins to transition into suffering from depression, which is more serious. She reminded the group to always reach out for help when they feel overwhelmed. It was informative, engaging and important information for our students and adult leaders.

As the Student Minister at Trinity, I’ve witnessed and walked alongside many of our students suffering from depression. This is not an uncommon experience with middle school and high school students. Though the greater Church is getting better at understanding depression and anxiety, there are still many misconceptions. Many still feel that if they pray a little harder or read their Bible a little more, God will take away the feelings. There are many examples (Job, David, etc.) in the Bible that struggled with depression. They prayed harder but God did not take away the despair. God walked alongside them providing love, grace and mercy. Today, God continues to walk with those that are suffering with depression and anxiety, reminding us to trust in his promises of presence and mercy.

I found a great article this morning that speaks to how we should approach depression and anxiety as Christians. Please take a few moments to read it. http://www.relevantmagazine.com/god/church/5-things-christians-should-know-about-depression-and-anxiety

For those suffering with depression, may God surround them with peace, grace, mercy, and love. For those who know friends and loved ones who struggle with depression and anxiety, may we have compassion, patience, and love to walk alongside them through their journey. God have mercy.

- Andy

Tough Issues High School Curriculum: Drugs + Alcohol

Last Wednesday night we finally began our Tough Issues curriculum with our high school students after being delayed a week by the snow.  Hopefully, you all have downloaded and read through the curriculum and the parent-student discussion questions posted over at lifehonestly.com . By reading through the curriculum you will see where discussion was lead during your student's D-Team time. 

Over the next few weeks, we will also be posting here about how we addressed each topic in our worship time in Northbound.  Last Wednesday night, we opened our time together in worship through song.  As the students sat back down, we recognized that telling students to "Just Say No" has not proven to be effective, and the graphic photos in health class of cars driven by drunk drivers have deterred very few high school students from choosing to drink, do drugs, and/or drive under the influence.  So, we let them in on how we were going to approach the subject a little differently.  What we wanted them to do was to explore the "why" question of choosing to drink or do drugs.  

Two of our students then presented this short dialogue:

Narrator:  This is Jacob.  Jacob is in his first semester of college.  He is smart, strong, and handsome - the product of a good home.  He always seems to make the grade or the goal.  He's worked, yes, but never having to sacrifice much time or energy to meet the mark.  It has been a long, relatively easy journey to here.

Jacob: Easy?  Not so much.

Narrator:  Jacob grew up in a loving, Christian home.  Church is all he has ever known.  His father serves as a deacon in his church, and his mother spends most of her extra time caring for those who are sick and in the hospital.  On the way to church every Sunday, they read over and discussed the lesson from his parents' quarterly.  On Sunday nights, Jacob's entire family would be back at church for Bible study, choir, and youth group.  On Wednesday nights, they were back at church for supper with their church family, Bible study, and missions.  Jacob made sure to go on every mission trip, retreat, and youth event in middle and high school.  He never missed a chance to hang out with his friends, help out in missions, and learn about his faith.

Jacob: It was probably more about friends than anything…

Narrator:  Jacob has always been a good student.  From the time he was in Kindergarten, he was always eager to please his teachers and parents - being attentive, respectful, and helpful in the classroom.  He did his homework on time, mostly, and tested well.  As he got into middle school, he began to take more advanced classes, and he began really getting into soccer competitively.  Life was busy, but fun.  Boy/girl parties started.  Girls became more interesting.  Parties became more exclusive.  And, alcohol entered the picture.  Jacob tried it once in seventh grade at a party with his older cousin, but he wasn't sure he got the appeal.

Jacob:  I though it tasted gross, and honestly I dealt with a lot of guilt and fear after the fact.  I was sure my parents would find out, and I really didn't want any of my friends to know.  I knew it was wrong, but I didn't want to stand out as a little kid at the party.

Narrator:  Jacob started to go to church camp and on mission trips, and he felt God in his heart really for the first time.  He put that party behind him, and really began to focus his attention on church, school, and soccer.

Jacob: Life felt pretty good then.  I just wanted to do what was right, and I really felt close to God then.  I started to understand in Sunday School and Bible studies.  I realized that I really loved working on mission trips.  Life was pretty uncomplicated then.

Narrator:  Life changed a bit when Jacob started high school and his older brother left for college.  Weekends became much busier with soccer and driving back and forth to his brother's baseball games at college.  Sundays became a travel day rather than a day of worship.  And, Wednesday nights at church became more sparse when soccer began to take precedence.

Jacob:  At first I didn't like being gone from church so much, but I knew I would be back… until I wasn't.  I didn't really notice that much when church slipped out of my life.  But, looking back, I can see how my life started to change when I began to leave God out.

Narrator:  Being the little brother of the star of the high school baseball team that won state's and the son of the coach had its advantages.  Teachers and coaches already knew who Jacob was and liked him.  He was popular, smart, respectful, and he came from a great family.

Jacob:  Yeah, I got out of a few classes and teachers liked me, but expectation was high.  I was no where near as good of a soccer player as my brother was a baseball player.  I was good enough to start all through high school, but I was by no means the star.  And, we didn't win states.  My grades were good enough, and I got by without a ton of effort.  B’s were my thing.  My parents wanted me to do better.  I think they knew that it wasn’t likely that I would get some huge soccer scholarship to pay for school.  Grades were a more likely avenue for that.

Narrator:  When Jacob turned sixteen he got his driver's license.  He found a lot more freedom, and he ended up a church more than he had been.  He was there most Sunday's, and he got to Wednesday's when he could.  He liked being back in church.

Jacob:  Yeah, church was great, but it was kind of hard to go back.  I thought I might have missed too much for the rest of the guys in my grade to accept me back in the group.  But, it really was no problem once I got over that.   To be honest, looking back, it feels like it probably was more me who didm;t think I was acceptable.  I knew that my life just did not line up.  I mean, would I have accepted me?

Narrator:  He had the freedom to drive himself to school and practce, but he found his social life picked up a lot.  He could go out on Friday and Saturday nights.  He got a curfew and a lot of plans.  Parties seemed to be happening every weekend, and his teammates were always together on the weekends.  Alcohol was just a fact at parties.

Jacob:  I really can't remember a single party without alcohol.  At first, I was really hesitant about drinking.  You know, I was back in church, and I knew it was wrong.  But, how wrong was it?  I mean, my parents had wine or beer with dinner every now and then, and they were Christians.  I just thought it was a pretty minor offense, and I thought it was just a part of a normal high school experience.   Most of my friends probably thought the same.  If they thought it was a huge deal, I don’t think they would have really made that decision.  We were all just having fun.  No one got hurt, really.

Narrator:  A couple of times Jacob got really drunk at a party. His friends at school thought it was funny.  His friends at church heard about it, and thought it was hypocritical. He kept going to parties, and he kept going to church.

Jacob:  I really didn't see that I was living multiple different lives.  I was perceived as one person by my teachers, coaches, and parents, another by my school friends, another by people by church, and I was never sure who I really was to myself.  I gues I was the acceptable version of myself depending on the situation and the people around me.  It worked, mostly.  On the outside.  I guess I just wanted people to like me - to want to hang out with me.  So, when I was at parties, yeah, I drank.  A couple of times I tried pot on soccer trips.  But, I wasn't really into it.  Alcohol seemed less wrong - more normal.  With alcohol, it just seemed easier.  I could jump right in and have fun - no worries, no inhibitions.  Even before I was technically buzzed, I felt like I could let go and be crazy.  I liked the way it felt not to care.

Narrator:  Senior year was pretty good for Jacob - getting into college, earning a couple of scholarships, winter formal, and really finiding more time to spend at church with the leadership team, church basketball, retreats, and mission trips.  Jacob even felt like he was growing closer to God again.  He still went to the occasional party and drank a beer or two.

Jacob:  Yeah, things were really changing for me.  I felt like I was becoming more me.  Soccer ended with the season, and school was an easy, daily inconvenience until graduation.  My summer mission trip was pretty awesome.  I had never seen people like that before.  We were in Mexico City.  The people were poor.  The kids were dirty.  But, they all seemed happy.  I realized how much I really have.  And, I really think I saw God for the first time.  It kind of opened my eyes.

Narrator:  Now, Jacob is in college.  Classes have started, and so has rush.  Jacob really wants to start fresh and on the right path.  He’s got a new place where no one knows him to form and figure out his identity.

Jacob:  I'm not really sure about anything.  Making friends isn't as easy or instant when you're not on a team.  I've thought about intermurals and club sports.  But, my dad was in a fraternity.  I'm just not sure that I am ready for that life again.  The party scene was fun on the surface.  I had a lot of friends and a lot fo crazy memories when I could remember them.  But, it was draining.  I felt aweful the next day physically and even emotionally.  It was really hard trying to keep up all of the “me’s” - the student me, the child me, the church me, the party me…  I think I am ready for just one me.  When I was in Mexico, I really felt like God's plan for my life was working.  I felt like I knew who I was and I was living life as that person- as the person God made me to be.  It felt really good to know that I was pleasing God.  I was really living out God’s plan for my life.  And, I'm not thinking that partying and getting drunk is really a part of God's plan.  I liked the way I felt when I drank in high school.  I hated the shame and guilt I felt afterward.  I liked the way I felt in Mexico, and there was no shame or guilt after.  But, how am I going to find friends?  It would be really easy if my church was here.
I don’t want to just sit around in my room or the library all of the time.  I want to have some sort of social life.  I want friends.  I want to have fun.  Maybe I can just take a break from partying for a while and try to just figure out me.  Or, I could just take a break from that glimmer of me that I saw on my mission trip and that I felt in church so I can enjoy college while it lasts.  The real world and God’s plan will always be there, but college won’t. 

In this short sketch, there are depicted many of the underlying reasons that students choose to drink and do drugs.  Many feel a sense of insecurity, or they like the added courage of the alcohol and its seeming ability to allow them to be more outgoing or funny.  Many just assume that it is a normal part of high school and do not see it as such a big deal.  Others may feel that it is just a part of fitting in, and many say yes just because it is there at the parties.  Some are just curious.  And, others will give the resigning that they are just trying to prepare for college - literally building up a tolerance so that they can handle the college lifestyle.  Not one of these reasons is a valid reason for choosing to partake in drugs and alcohol, but every one of these reasons is a reason straight from the mouth of a teenager.  

In doing this sketch of a college freshman, it was our hope to touch on a chord or two with our students - recognizing the reasons they give to their choices and then offering an alternative reasoning.  In helping them to think through the why, we hope to encourage them in their identity development and self-differentiation from the status quo of high school, college, and even the adult "party scene."  

As we closed our time together, Lydia shared her reasoning for choosing not to drink or do drugs.  She shared that she felt that God made her in a particular way, with a particular personality, and with a particular purpose; and drugs and alcohol alter the person that God made her to be.  In choosing drugs and alcohol, she would be choosing to say no to God's plans and purposes and choosing to say, rather, that her plans and purposes were better than God's.   

It is easy to find passages in the Bible referring to drunkenness and its prohibition.  We can point to these verses in instructing our children, but exploring the theological why behind these commands will ultimately prove much more effective in teach our children than simply commanding and never helping our children to understand God's good and pure intentions behind such commands and prohibitions.